The Unforeseen Beginning: November 2nd, A Monday That Changed Everything
November 2nd dawned as a Monday, the kind that often felt like a small gift. It was the Monday following the end of daylight saving time, a morning when the clock’s deceptive 5:00 AM felt like a luxurious 6:00 AM to my body, granting the illusion of an extra hour of precious sleep. Unlike my usual inclination to linger in bed, a surprising surge of energy propelled me upward, an inexplicable urge to seize the day and be productive.
This burst of motivation was particularly peculiar, given the exhausting weekend we had just navigated. Our tenants had informed us of their departure from our rental property by October 31st, Halloween night. To avert any loss of rental income, my husband, Shawn, and I had swiftly secured a new tenant, ready to move in on November 1st. This tight turnaround meant we had less than 24 hours to meticulously clean and repaint the entire property for its next occupants. Reflecting on it now, especially at almost 32 weeks pregnant, the feat seems almost impossible. Yet, we were resolute. With the incredible help of my parents, sister, and brother-in-law, we transformed the property in a mere four hours, operating as an efficient, determined team.
The following day, November 1st, was my mom’s birthday. That morning, we met our new tenant, completed the walk-through, and handed over the keys. Afterwards, our family celebrated my mom’s special day with a delightful wine tasting outing (I, of course, remained the designated driver, foregoing wine), concluding with a celebratory dinner that evening.
Despite the whirlwind of the weekend, I still embraced that “extra” hour, rising early to tackle household chores and laundry, which had been neglected amidst the property chaos. Our home was somewhat disheveled, and I yearned for order. I knew our 32-week prenatal appointment was scheduled for later that day, complete with an eagerly anticipated ultrasound. Returning to a clean, organized home after seeing our baby would be a small but significant comfort.
My day at work was followed by a productive lunch break spent at Bed Bath and Beyond, a long-overdue errand to purchase new sheets for our bed. It was a simple task I had procrastinated for weeks, but that day, it felt important.
In hindsight, it was as if my body instinctively knew the impending shift, granting me a brief, final window to engage in a profound nesting instinct, preparing our sanctuary before the unexpected began.
Upon returning home from work, the newly purchased sheets went straight into the wash. As they moved from washer to dryer, Shawn arrived home, signaling it was time for our doctor’s appointment. We even made dinner plans for afterwards, intending to celebrate both the glimpse of our baby via ultrasound and the successful completion of the rental property renovation. We left our home, the new sheets remaining in the dryer, ready for crisp, clean slumber. Unbeknownst to us, those dinner plans would never materialize, and I wouldn’t step foot back into our house for the next 25 days…
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We arrived promptly for our 32-week prenatal check-up. Beyond the routine assessments, the main event was an ultrasound to determine the baby’s position. We hadn’t seen our little one since the 20-week scan, and my excitement to witness his growth was immense. A subtle anxiety lingered, however; all the kicks I felt were still remarkably low. I hadn’t experienced any ribcage kicks, leading me to suspect the baby hadn’t flipped head-down yet. I braced myself for the doctor to confirm my intuition.
My suspicions were correct. Our baby remained in a breech position, feet-down.
The doctor, ever reassuring, advised against immediate worry. She explained that there was still ample time for the baby to turn naturally, typically only becoming a concern if he hadn’t flipped by 36 weeks. I had a month. She provided a printout of tips and exercises designed to encourage the baby’s rotation. In more stubborn cases, she mentioned an external cephalic version (ECV), where doctors manually attempt to turn the baby by gently pushing and squeezing the abdomen. Should all efforts fail and the baby remain breech, a C-section would be necessary. “But we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it,” she calmly stated. Otherwise, the baby appeared healthy and thriving, and our next appointment was scheduled in two weeks.
Rising from the examination table, Shawn and I left the room, our thoughts already on our dinner date. It was approximately 3:30 PM. As I walked, I felt a small, unusual leak. A mere trickle, less than a teaspoon. Pregnancy brings many strange bodily changes, and I initially attributed it to… well, you can imagine. A restroom was conveniently located just outside the exam room, so I stepped in.
Emerging from the bathroom, another small seep occurred. Annoyance flared. “I just peed! How can there be more? Come on, body!” Shawn chuckled at my exasperation as we headed toward the elevator. But as we reached the elevator doors, yet another, more substantial leakage. “Now this is truly odd. I don’t even feel the urge to pee.”
I stood frozen, trying to process the situation. Then, a significant gush. Looking down, my jeans were visibly wet, as if I had lost bladder control. “Um, Shawn? A lot of liquid is coming out. I don’t think this is pee…” He glanced down at my soaked jeans, his expression shifting. “Oh wow. Okay. Let’s just go ask the doctor really quickly. We’re already here.”
We turned back, knocking on the door separating the waiting area from the exam rooms. The nurse’s assistant answered. “Yes?” “Hi, um. I have a quick question for my doctor. I’m leaking fluid? I don’t really know what’s happening.” “Okay, I’ll go get her. Come back with me.”
My doctor emerged from her office, a calm smile on her face. Her gaze immediately settled on the undeniable evidence on my jeans. “Okay, Natalie. Come back in with me. I can check if this is amniotic fluid. It takes less than a minute. No need to worry.”
Back in the exam room, I had to peel off my wet jeans. She used a long Q-tip to swab, then disappeared into her office to perform the test. Shawn and I were left alone in the silent room for a full minute, neither of us speaking. The leaking continued.
The doctor returned, her expression still calm but now conveying a subtle gravity. “Okay, Natalie. It is amniotic fluid. Your water just broke. You are only 31 weeks and 6 days pregnant. This is early, but the survival outcome for babies born at this stage is over 95%, with very few associated risks. Our goal is to keep you pregnant, ideally until you reach 34 weeks. You will be transferred to Kaiser Walnut Creek, as we don’t deliver babies at this facility. I will call ahead to inform them of your arrival. They will administer a steroid shot to accelerate your baby’s lung development, significantly enhancing his chances of breathing independently if he is born early. We hope you won’t go into labor prematurely and will remain pregnant. You will be on strict hospital bed rest, meaning you won’t leave until the baby is born. If there’s anything essential you need from home, you can grab it now, but I strongly recommend heading to the hospital immediately. Any questions? I know this is a lot to absorb.”
“Is this all truly happening? This must be a dream,” I thought, glancing at Shawn, who looked like a deer caught in headlights.
“Okay, so we’ll drive to Walnut Creek now? I don’t even know where labor and delivery is. We haven’t done the hospital tour yet.”
“It’s on the second floor. Don’t worry, they’ll explain everything when you get there. I’m just relieved I didn’t perform a physical exam on you! Otherwise, you’d think I’d popped your bag of water myself! I’ll stay in close communication with the doctors there to monitor your progress. Good luck! You’re going to be just fine.” She then handed me some waterproof exam table covers, a practical gesture to protect my car’s leather seats during the drive.
Shawn and I left the exam room, hand in hand, sharing nervous, bewildered smiles. The car ride to Kaiser Walnut Creek was surreal. I can’t recall a single word we exchanged, but the palpable energy remains vivid. Shawn was remarkably calm and steady, a grounding force. I, on the other hand, was a bundle of nerves. A deep, quiet knowing that everything would ultimately be okay coexisted with uncertainty about the immediate future. We held hands throughout the entire drive, a silent anchor.
Each time more fluid gushed out, I’d let out a nervous gasp. Shawn would gently squeeze my hand, reminding me not to worry, repeating the doctor’s assurance that everything would be alright. Stuck in rush-hour traffic, amidst the rain on that Monday afternoon, I called my cousin, who works as a labor and delivery nurse. I recounted the events, and she patiently reiterated everything my doctor had said, adding comforting anecdotes about babies born as early as 24 weeks who thrived. Her words were a balm to my anxious spirit.
Finally, we reached the hospital. Before stepping inside, Shawn stopped me, pulled me close for a kiss, and captured a photo. That image perfectly encapsulates our emotions at that moment: Shawn, strong and confident, and me, determined to stay positive yet undeniably overwhelmed. It was the calm before the storm of our new reality.
Once admitted, I changed into a hospital gown and was immediately connected to a myriad of machines. Two monitors were strapped to my belly—one to track contractions, the other to monitor the baby’s heart rate. A blood pressure cuff cycled on my arm, a clip on my finger tracked my pulse, and an IV delivered fluids. Despite the intrusion, I found immense comfort in seeing our baby’s heart rate displayed, beating steadily and strongly, a perfect rhythm.
The first steroid shot to accelerate the baby’s lung development was administered. It stung, a sharp reminder of our precarious situation. I was scheduled for another dose exactly 24 hours later, with full efficacy expected after 48 hours, ensuring his lungs would be optimally prepared for a premature birth. Next came the daunting task of signing papers—so many papers.
“Sign here if I want a blood transfusion if it will save my life. Obviously. Wait, am I going to be losing a lot of blood?”
“Sign here if you want the baby vaccinated for Hepatitis. I think so? Wait, does this mean the baby is going to be born soon?!”
“Write down all your insurance information. Thank God Shawn has good insurance through his work. This is probably going to cost a fortune.”
Overwhelmed, I passed all the documents to Shawn. He was, after all, better at deciphering contracts. The fluid continued to leak, a constant, tangible reminder of our new reality.
Finally, a doctor entered, explaining everything rapidly, almost a blur of statistics and scenarios. Best-case, worst-case—it was overwhelming, and Shawn looked on the verge of fainting. Yet, amidst the rush of information, I distinctly remember him identifying my condition: PPROM – Preterm Premature Rupture Of Membranes. He emphasized it was a random occurrence, not a result of anything I did. He rattled off probabilities: 50% of women go into labor within 48 hours, 75% within a week, and only 10% make it two weeks. In my heart, I absolutely KNEW I would be among that 10%.
The doctor outlined the strategy to prevent premature labor: extreme hydration to help replenish amniotic fluid, minimal movement (only standing to use the bathroom), and maintaining the utmost calm. Stress, he warned, could inadvertently trigger labor. He further elaborated that the rupture in my amniotic sac meant the baby no longer had a protective bubble, making him vulnerable to infection. This was the primary reason for my hospitalization and constant monitoring. The fluid leakage would persist until birth. Any blood or change in fluid color required immediate notification.
Furthermore, with my water broken, my body was already primed for labor. The absence of contractions was a positive sign, and they wouldn’t perform cervical checks to avoid introducing infection. However, it was possible I was already a few centimeters dilated. A grave concern was the risk of cord prolapse—if dilated, the umbilical cord could slip out, becoming pinched and cutting off oxygen to the baby. Should I ever notice the cord, an emergency C-section would be required within minutes to save the baby’s life. This alarming possibility was the main rationale behind the strict bed rest.
“This is scary. We’re going to be okay, right? I think we’re going to be okay,” I silently reassured myself.
Around 9 PM, I was moved to a private room (thank goodness!) on the Labor & Delivery wing. My family arrived shortly after, bringing essential items from home and comforting food. Their presence instantly calmed me. No one seemed frightened or worried; instead, we chatted, joked, and smiled, light-heartedly suggesting our baby was simply too eager to meet us, having “poked” his way out early. We all shared a collective belief that we would be okay, provided I remained calm, hydrated, and still. This was our new mantra.
Hospital Bedrest: A Small World, A Big Purpose (November 3rd – 16th)
And then, my world became incredibly small. Earlier in my pregnancy, I had flippantly joked with Shawn about the prospect of bedrest. A doctor-ordered mandate to simply lie in bed, watch movies, and read books all day? “Sign me up!” I’d declared. In a strange twist of fate, I found myself unexpectedly right. Bedrest, surprisingly, was kind of awesome.
Having spent the entire summer intensely focused on filming weddings and both of us working full-time jobs, the forced deceleration was a welcome, almost luxurious, reprieve. The first two days were undoubtedly the most terrifying. Our immediate goal was to clear the 48-hour mark, by which point the steroid shots would be fully effective, and I would have surpassed the 50% chance of going into labor immediately after my water broke. I found myself obsessively watching the clock, celebrating each passing hour as a victory, one step closer to that crucial 48-hour milestone. A small whiteboard on the wall, updated nightly at midnight, marked my gestational age. I remember the immense joy and relief when we made it to midnight for the first time, officially reaching 32 weeks pregnant.
Shawn took the first two days off work, never leaving my side. He thoughtfully communicated our situation to family and friends, deciding to manage all external communications himself. His reasoning was simple: he wanted me to rest and maintain a state of absolute zen, fearing that any excessive excitement or stress could inadvertently trigger labor. Shawn became a steadfast protector, creating a powerful “protective bubble” around me and our baby. He shouldered all the frightening, difficult, and stressful burdens, allowing me and our unborn son to relax, free from worry, in our tiny hospital sanctuary.
On that first morning, an ultrasound confirmed a healthy amount of amniotic fluid, a testament to my diligent hydration efforts—nearly three liters of water daily! Our baby boy was active and doing well. Then, gloriously, we made it past 48 hours!
This milestone earned me a transfer to a far more comfortable and private room in the post-delivery section of the hospital. I was even cleared to take a shower, albeit seated and with Shawn’s assistance. Life settled into a new, albeit temporary, rhythm. This became our new normal.
Nurses meticulously checked my vitals every four hours, even throughout the night, primarily scanning for any signs of fever or infection. Each time, I was perfectly healthy. Twice daily, a heart monitor was strapped to my belly to track the baby’s heart rate. They performed a non-stress test, requiring the baby to achieve three “heart rate spikes” within 20 minutes—a crucial indicator of movement and his ability to regulate his heart. Shawn and I would sit, in our small hospital room, gently talking to our baby, coaxing and encouraging him to move and show off his strong heart. He always passed with flying colors.
Ultrasounds were scheduled twice a week, consistently confirming our baby’s excellent progress. Every single day felt like an enormous accomplishment. Each dawn marked another day our son remained safely inside, another precious 24 hours for him to grow and develop.
My mom and sister tirelessly prepared our home for the baby’s arrival, attending to every conceivable detail. They washed all the baby clothes, assembled the changing table, and set up the bassinet. My sister regularly sent me picture and video updates of our house transforming, each update filling me with immense happiness and a sense of calm. Shawn and I hadn’t set up a single item; I didn’t even own a diaper. Our baby shower, originally scheduled for the Saturday after my water broke, was, of course, cancelled. However, our friends and family were incredibly thoughtful, dropping off gifts at my mom’s house, ensuring they would be waiting for our return. From my hospital bed, I managed to order any remaining essentials via my phone.
Shawn handled all the arduous, stressful aspects of our life on hold. Numerous unforeseen tasks arose when our routine abruptly paused. We had a wedding photography booking on November 15th that we clearly couldn’t fulfill. Shawn contacted every wedding industry connection we knew and miraculously secured a replacement. Fortunately, the bride herself was a NICU nurse, and she understood our predicament completely. Our new rental tenant also encountered a few minor issues, which Shawn and my dad promptly addressed, ensuring her satisfaction.
Shawn was, quite simply, amazing throughout the entire ordeal. He slept by my side every single night, despite the incredibly hard and uncomfortable fold-out chair bed. The following week, when it became clear I wasn’t going into immediate labor, he returned to work, carefully conserving his vacation days. Even when he was away, he maintained constant contact, calling and texting throughout the day to ensure I was doing okay, his presence a comforting tether.
He meticulously managed all the difficult decisions and challenging logistics. He remained an unwavering pillar of strength, constantly flirting with me and reassuring me of my beauty, even as I wore a hospital gown and hadn’t washed my hair in a week. He would tenderly hug and kiss my belly, speaking to our baby, praising his strength for staying put and growing. He often told me how proud he was of “us.” My love for him deepened profoundly during this time.
In that tiny hospital room, with our baby still safely within me, we truly solidified as a family of three. While we had often discussed the baby before, once I was confined to bedrest, our entire world revolved around his health and well-being. He became our sole topic of conversation and thought. It was a uniquely beautiful period of profound bonding, of cherishing our baby and each other before his arrival—a forced pause that allowed us to truly slow down and appreciate the nascent moments of our new family.
Our extended family and friends offered immense support and encouragement, inundating us with thoughtful texts, emails, and voicemails, assuring us of their thoughts and prayers. We made the conscious decision to limit visitors, prioritizing my complete rest, a request everyone graciously understood. Friends dropped off flowers, my blogging community sent their well wishes in floral form, and Shawn’s mom assembled a thoughtful care package filled with puzzles and DVDs. We felt enveloped in love, buoyed by the collective hope and prayers for our little family.
The sole exception to the no-visitor rule was my immediate family, who visited almost daily. Our bond with my parents, sister, and brother-in-law is exceptionally close, and I felt 100% comfortable and worry-free in their presence. There was no embarrassment if my hospital gown inadvertently revealed my underwear when I stood, or if a doctor inquired about my last bowel movement in front of them. Their unwavering support created a sanctuary of normalcy.
My dad, a steadfast presence, arrived almost every morning around 9:30 AM, just as Shawn left for work. I would recline in bed, and he would settle into the chair beside me. Our morning ritual included watching the end of “Kelly & Michael,” followed by “The Price Is Right” (we became remarkably adept at guessing prices!), then a rotation of HGTV shows or “The First 48.” My dad would diligently refill my water, fetch snacks, and ensure I ate my lunch. He’d share amusing anecdotes, update me on our chickens at home, and gently encourage me to nap and rest. These were truly the sweetest, most comforting moments.
My mom and sister would visit after work. My mom, a culinary angel, would prepare the most delicious, healthy dinners, knowing I wasn’t particularly fond of hospital food and wanted to nourish my baby as best I could. She and my sister would arrive with bags brimming with healthy snacks for my room. We’d discuss our workday (all three of us worked in the same office) and our favorite TV shows, always culminating in excited conversations about the baby’s excellent progress.
I cherished having my family around, if only to distract me from prolonged periods of solitude and the potential for scary, negative thoughts. When they weren’t there, I exerted every effort to avoid anything negative, succeeding about 85% of the time. For the remaining 15%, I allowed myself to feel the fear. I rigorously avoided “Googling” anything related to PPROM or preterm birth. Instead, I religiously listened to a 30-minute hypnosis track titled “Baby Stay In”—a tool I am convinced genuinely helped extend my pregnancy. On strong, positive days, I’d listen to it once in the morning and once before bed. On challenging days, when overwhelmed and scared, I would listen to it ten times in a row, a desperate plea for calm.
I finally read all the baby books I had intended to, caught up on countless Netflix shows, and napped whenever possible. I also had the opportunity to truly get to know all the dedicated nurses.
Then, around 8:30 PM, Shawn would return from work, a true hero, and an immediate sense of safety and calm would wash over me. Everything always felt okay when he was near.
This routine persisted for 15 days. Before I knew it, I had reached our initial goal: 34 weeks pregnant.
At this juncture, all the doctors converged on a recommendation: the baby should be born immediately upon reaching 34 weeks. At this gestational age, a baby is considered well-developed, and any further growth and development could safely occur outside the womb. Waiting longer, they explained, wouldn’t significantly alter the baby’s growth but would instead increase the risk of infection for me and, more critically, for the baby. It was deemed far safer to deliver a 100% healthy baby at 34 weeks than to wait, risking an in-utero infection that, for such a tiny infant, could be extremely serious, even fatal.
The difficult truth, however, was that at six weeks premature, our baby would undoubtedly require time in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). The doctors couldn’t predict the exact level of support our baby would need or the duration of his NICU stay, adding another layer of anxious uncertainty.
To prepare, we embarked on a tour of the NICU. It was my first time leaving my hospital room since admission, and I was wheeled there in a wheelchair. To my surprise, the NICU was not nearly as daunting as I had imagined. The nurses were incredibly kind, explaining every detail with patience and compassion. They showed us the incubator, or ‘isolette,’ where our baby would reside, assuring us we could be with him as often and for as long as we wished. While it wasn’t the ideal beginning I had envisioned for our family of three, what truly mattered was our baby’s health. I could clearly see he would receive the best possible care and be in the most capable hands.
After carefully weighing all the options, and despite the inherent fear, Shawn and I wholeheartedly agreed with the medical team’s recommendation. We decided to deliver our baby six weeks early, at 34 weeks pregnant. Given his persistent breech position, a scheduled C-section was the chosen method of delivery.
The night before was surreal. Shawn gently helped me shower. We shared a quiet dinner. We talked extensively about our baby, our emotions a complex tapestry of excitement, nervousness, and immense pride for having come so far. I tried to push down the pervasive fear, but it lingered nonetheless.
“Is the baby going to be okay? Will he be able to breathe on his own? Will he be healthy, born this early?”
“Am I going to be okay? I’ve never had surgery. They’re going to be slicing into me? While I’m awake?!”
A desperate urge to fast-forward, to know the outcome, consumed me. The mystery of the unknown felt vast and terrifying.
It’s a profoundly strange thing, knowing the exact day your baby will enter the world. Knowing that in less than 24 hours, you will become parents. Reflecting on how utterly different the next night, and all future nights, would be from this one. Realizing this was our last night as just the two of us. A deep appreciation for our luck, for the abundance of love we shared, and the certainty that our lives would be immeasurably richer with our baby here, mingled with a bittersweet savoring of these fleeting moments as simply Shawn and Natalie.
We had been together since the tender ages of 16 and 17, growing up side-by-side, experiencing so much of life hand in hand. And now, 12 years later, we were on the cusp of bringing a new life into the world—our baby, a perfect blend of half me and half him.
That night, I made Shawn cuddle me closely in the small hospital bed. We held hands, attempted to watch a movie, hugged, kissed, and I shed tears, expressing “I love you” countless times. Shawn, ever my rock, reiterated that everything would be absolutely fine, promising we would get through it. Our shared love and inherent strength, he assured me, would continue to carry us. We were as ready as we could ever be. We couldn’t wait to meet our baby boy.
Joshua’s Arrival: November 17th, Our Family’s Birth Day
I was initially scheduled for the first C-section of the day at 8:30 AM. However, the nurses wisely advised against setting my heart on a specific time, explaining that an emergency C-section would take precedence. At 5:00 AM, my nurse confirmed I had already been bumped. A higher-risk C-section was scheduled before mine, pushing my slot to 10:30 AM. I texted my family, encouraging them to get more sleep and reassuring them they didn’t need to arrive at the hospital by 7:00 AM.
Then, I was bumped again, with the new target time of 12:30 PM. We spent the morning in my small hospital room with my family, watching TV, joking, laughing, and even working on a puzzle. The waiting felt like an agonizing torture. My mind incessantly echoed, “When, when, when?” I tried to reassure myself that by nightfall, I would have my baby, and all my “what if” questions would finally have answers. Anticipation and anxiety soared, yet I tried my best to suppress it.
“I can do this. We’re going to be fine. Everything is always fine.”
“I can’t do this. I hate this. Can it be tomorrow yet? Can I just go to bed and it will be tomorrow?”
I was intensely hungry and profoundly thirsty, having been forbidden any food or drink since midnight. I continuously rubbed my belly, whispering reassurances to our baby that we would be okay, that I couldn’t wait to meet him, that he didn’t need to worry about a single thing, as Mommy and Daddy would handle everything. I captured one last picture of my boy still inside me, using the reflection on the shower door in my small hospital room, as there wasn’t a mirror large enough.
Finally, at 2:00 PM, the nurse arrived, announcing I was next for the C-section. It was almost time! The anesthesiologist then came in, calmly explaining the procedure. He seemed knowledgeable and reassuring, instilling a sense of safety until he began outlining the risks. “You’ll need to hold very still when I administer the epidural. If it’s placed incorrectly, you won’t be properly numb. There’s a possibility of developing a spinal headache from the epidural, which feels like a week-long migraine. Any questions? Please sign this consent form.”
Next, the small, seemingly petite surgeon, a 50-something Asian woman who couldn’t have weighed more than 100 pounds, introduced herself. A momentary doubt flickered: how could someone so small facilitate such a monumental life event? Yet, as she spoke, her composed demeanor was reassuring. Until she proceeded to enumerate even more risks. “It’s possible you could experience significant blood loss, requiring a blood transfusion. In very rare cases, transfused blood might carry HIV or Hepatitis. If bleeding is excessive and cannot be controlled, a hysterectomy might be necessary. There’s also a possibility of nicking organs like your bladder during surgery. Any questions? Please sign this consent form.” Shawn was given scrubs to change into and a mask to wear over his face, ready for the operating room.
At 2:45 PM, a wheelchair arrived to transport me. It was time. I said goodbye to my family, who would wait in my hospital room. I had asked them beforehand to keep our farewell subdued and casual to mitigate my nervousness. We hugged, and I reassured them not to worry, that we would be fine. “We’re going to have our baby boy!” I declared. They stood outside my room, waving as I was wheeled down the hall, holding Shawn’s hand tightly the entire way.
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I was wheeled into the operating room, a blindingly bright space where every single light seemed to be on. Shawn had to wait outside until after my epidural was administered, a protocol to maintain a sterile environment. The logic of allowing Shawn into an operating room where my stomach and uterus would be fully exposed, but not during a needle insertion into my back, remained a peculiar mystery to me. Nevertheless, rules were rules.
I sat on the hospital bed, surrounded by a multitude of medical professionals: one operating doctor, one operating doctor’s assistant, a dedicated nurse for me, an anesthesiologist, and two NICU nurses specifically for the baby. Everyone wore scrubs and masks, their faces obscured, leaving only their eyes visible. I felt enveloped by so many people, yet paradoxically, utterly alone.
Despite the surreal setting, I managed a polite smile, offering thanks to the doctors and nurses, my anticipation to meet my baby overwhelming. It felt as though I was observing myself from outside my own body. The room was notably warm, very warm, causing me to perspire. The doctor explained it was kept warm for the baby, a detail I appreciated. My sweating was a minor discomfort, a small price for easing my baby’s transition.
The anesthesiologist had me sit on the edge of the bed, then prepped and cleaned my back. “I’m going to give you a few tiny novocaine shots first,” he explained. “This will numb the area so you won’t feel the big one. These little ones barely hurt.” He was right; the initial shots were almost imperceptible.
Machines whirred to life around me. An IV delivered fluids—a welcome relief, as I hadn’t had water in 15 hours. A blood pressure cuff automatically inflated and deflated every minute, monitoring my vitals. A pulse monitor clipped to my finger, its rhythmic beeping filling the room, amplifying my own rapidly beating heart. “Are you feeling nervous? Your heart rate is a little high,” a nurse gently inquired. “Yes, probably very nervous. I’ll try to calm down,” I responded, closing my eyes and focusing on tranquil thoughts, reassuring my baby that we would be okay, that we would meet soon, that he was safe.
“Okay, I’m going to give you the big shot now,” the anesthesiologist instructed. “Really hunch over and arch your back forward. Good, just like that. Okay, do not move a millimeter.” I held perfectly still, more rigid than ever before, almost afraid to breathe. The nurse beside me held my hand, a strangely intimate gesture from a woman whose face I couldn’t even see behind her mask, only her kind eyes. Her ID badge had two pictures of her children clipped to it, and she spoke of them, sharing how her son had excelled at a baseball game on Saturday. Her sweet, mundane stories were a small anchor in the storm of the moment.
I missed Shawn terribly. He was just outside the door, waiting. He later recounted that the needle was enormous, confessing his wonder at how it didn’t pass entirely through my spine. “Okay, the epidural is in. We’re going to lay you down. You’ll start to feel it take effect in your toes first,” the anesthesiologist announced. As they gently lowered me, my toes were already tingling.
They began cleaning and swabbing my entire body. I realized my hospital gown was gone; I was completely exposed. “Okay, Natalie. This is a simple alcohol wipe. When I wipe it by your neck, it’s going to feel cold. Like this. Feel how it is cold? Okay, good. Now tell me when it stops feeling cold.” He began swiping the wipe down the side of my body. It still felt cold at my belly button. “Okay, we’re going to tilt the bed back to help the epidural numb you,” they explained, cranking the bed so my feet rose and my head lowered. I gazed up at the ceiling. “Okay, let’s try it again. When does it stop being cold?” This time, by my ribcage, I felt no coldness. “Good! You’re numb. We can start.” “Oh dear God, I hope I was right. It stopped being numb at my ribs, right?” I silently prayed.
They splayed my arms out to either side, forming a ‘T’ shape. A curtain was raised at my armpits—a welcome barrier, as I had no desire to witness the surgery. Shawn entered, and an immediate wave of relief washed over me. His presence was essential. “If he is here, we’ll all be okay.”
“Hi, Nat. How are you? I was watching the whole thing. You’re doing great. I love you so much,” he said, his voice a soothing balm. “I am so calm, Shawn. So calm. I’m so glad you’re here. I’m fine now. It’s all going to be fine,” I replied, a profound sense of peace settling over me.
The surgery began. I felt nothing, but I registered scents. “What’s that burning smell? Oh my, I think it’s my skin. Let’s not think about that.” And I heard sounds. “What’s that sucking sound? I bet it’s a machine sucking up blood. Okay, body, let’s not lose too much blood.” I looked into Shawn’s eyes, reiterating that I was completely fine, that he didn’t need to worry about me or the baby, that I wasn’t scared. And I wasn’t. A profound calm had descended. We were doing it. It was happening. After 15 days of waiting, the moment had arrived. We would meet our baby soon. This was it.
“Okay, baby, you’re probably feeling tugged on. That’s okay. They’re just bringing you to me. Don’t worry. Just relax and be strong. Mommy and Daddy are right here.” I was jostled, moved, shaken, and tugged. It felt like being on a slow-motion rollercoaster. They began pushing near my ribcage. The anesthesiologist whispered to Shawn that it was almost time, giving him permission to look. Shawn stood up, peeking over the curtain.
With overwhelming excitement, he exclaimed, “Oh my gosh! Nat! He’s beautiful! I can’t believe it!” And then, I heard our son cry. It was the most beautiful sound in the world. “He’s crying! That means his lungs work! He’s okay!” I melted with relief and happiness, floating on a wave of pure joy. It was 3:36 PM.
The NICU nurses swiftly took our son to a nearby table, gently cleaning him. He continued to cry strongly. I could just glimpse him—healthy, beautiful, undeniably ours. Shawn was by the baby’s side, adoring him, and I was grateful he wasn’t alone. Shawn snapped a few precious pictures. They weighed him. “Please start with a 5. Please start with a 5,” I silently willed. He weighed 5 pounds, 2 ounces and was 17½ inches long. Loosely wrapped in a blanket, he was brought over and laid skin-to-skin on my chest.
“Hi, Josh! I’m your mommy. I love you so much. You’re doing so good! I’m so proud of you. I’m so happy I get to meet you. I’m going to love you forever.” He was perfect. We named him Joshua David. Joshua, a name we had always loved, always envisioning a blond, blue-eyed boy. David, after my beloved dad. Shawn stood right beside us, a complete family of three. Nothing else mattered. We had everything we needed. Our entire world slowed to a precious crawl behind that small surgery curtain. I held Josh for what felt like an eternity, but was likely only two minutes, cherishing every fleeting second.
***
But then, his breaths became labored. “Big inhale… pause… big inhale… pause… big inhale… pause…” A fresh wave of worry washed over me. “Is he okay? It looks like he’s taking really deep breaths.” The nurse, ever calm, confirmed my observation, explaining they would take him to the NICU to assist his breathing. “Yes, please take him. Thank you for taking care of him,” I responded, my voice laced with concern. They asked if Shawn wanted to accompany the baby or stay with me. “Go with Josh, Shawn,” I urged. “I’m just fine. Josh needs you more than I do.” Shawn left with our baby. The delivery of Josh had taken about 10 minutes; stitching me up would take another 30. I was alone with my thoughts, for 30 long minutes.
“He cried! That’s good. And he was breathing. But it did look like he was struggling a little. The NICU will take care of him. He’ll be okay, right? He has to be okay. Shawn is there. As long as Shawn is there, everything will be okay. He looked healthy. And his weight started with a 5! He’s such a strong boy. He’s going to be okay. He has to be okay. Am I doing okay? Is this surgery going okay?! How long does it take to get me stitched up? Is it supposed to take this long? Did she nick my bladder? Am I losing a lot of blood? I’m not even going to ask. Should I ask? What if I ask the doctor how the surgery is going and she doesn’t answer right away? That definitely means it’s not going well. The anesthesiologist looks calm, so that must mean it’s going okay. It’s so quiet in here. Why is no one talking?! God, I hope Josh is okay.” My mind raced, a torrent of anxious questions.
Finally, I was all stitched up. They lowered the curtain. I bravely asked the scary question, avoiding looking down. “Did the surgery go okay?” “Oh, yes! It went great. You did great. Couldn’t have gone better,” the doctor cheerfully replied. They moved me to the post-operative room. My entire body trembled, an uncontrollable shivering that wasn’t from cold. The nurse reassured me it was completely normal, merely my body’s powerful reaction to giving birth.
Shawn returned. “How’s Josh?!” I eagerly asked. “He’s great! He is so cute, Nat! He has blonde hair. I think he really looks like me. I took so many pictures.” “How is his breathing?” “Good! He was having a little trouble, so they have him on an intubator. It will help him breathe until his lungs are strong enough. They’re working on him right now. He is fine. He’s going to be just fine, Nat. All the nurses say so.” “Oh, I’m so happy to hear that. Good. That’s really good. The doctor said the surgery went fine. I still can’t feel anything.” Shawn then went to update my family, showing them pictures and videos of Josh, who were ecstatic. He called his family to share the joyous news, then sent my mom into the post-op room to be with me while he returned to Josh.
I was finally wheeled back to my hospital room on a stretcher, still so numb I couldn’t wiggle my toes. My entire family stood outside, cheering and clapping—a truly heartwarming moment. We were all so happy. Shawn kept returning with updates on Josh’s progress; he was doing really well. The epidural slowly began to wear off, and I finally got to drink water.
My family went out to get food, promising to bring some back. I requested a deli sandwich from Whole Foods, overjoyed at the prospect of finally eating deli meat again! With the help of Shawn and my favorite nurse, I began pumping. Unable to be with Josh and nurse him directly, I was determined to produce an abundance of nourishing milk to help him grow strong. The nurse and Shawn meticulously helped me collect every precious drop of colostrum. It was empowering to feel I was contributing, being a mom, even with my baby not physically near. I missed him immensely, but found solace in knowing he was receiving exceptional care, striving to maintain a positive outlook.
By 9 PM, the epidural had completely worn off, and I could move my legs. I was on pain medication, which largely managed the post-surgical discomfort. Until I had to stand up. “Yup, they definitely sliced right through me. I can’t even imagine walking. There is no way.” My nurse, however, presented a powerful incentive: if I could walk the mere ten feet to the bathroom, I would be strong enough to go to the NICU in a wheelchair and see my baby. “There is a way. I can do this. I can walk to the bathroom. Then I’ll get to see Josh again.” Every step was excruciatingly slow, but I did it. I sat on the toilet, and the nurse cleaned me. Then, into a wheelchair, and off to the NICU.
Josh was in his isolette, the one closest to the door, a detail I liked—it felt like we were already halfway out, that our NICU stay was temporary. He was so tiny, so utterly cute, so perfect. He instantly felt like mine, as if I had known him forever. I couldn’t hold him yet, not with the intubator, but I could reach my hands inside the isolette. I sat in my wheelchair, my hands gently resting on my baby, for what felt like hours. It was heaven.
Shawn, already an expert, patiently explained all the wires: “This one monitors his breathing. This one monitors his heart rate. This one monitors his oxygen level.” As much as it pained me to leave him, we eventually headed back to my hospital room. I consoled myself with the thought of pumping again, making more milk for him. Shawn slept like a rock that night, emotionally exhausted from being so strong all day. I, however, was wired, full of adrenaline, and deeply missed my baby. I tried to push away the difficulty of our separation, pumping every three hours. The nurses were amazed by the quantity of colostrum I produced, assuring me it was unusually high. This made me feel good, like I was actively contributing, taking care of my baby from afar. Eventually, I, too, found some sleep.
The NICU Journey and Our Thanksgiving Homecoming (November 18th – 26th)
In the NICU, Josh grew stronger with each passing day. Each morning brought new, positive news, a testament to his resilience.
On the day he was born, he required an intubator, a tube inserted through his mouth directly into his lungs to assist with breathing.
By day two, he was strong enough to come off the intubator and stepped down to a CPAP machine, which delivered air into his nose. It was secured by a tiny knitted hat, which he persistently pulled down, as if signaling he no longer needed it.
On day three, he progressed to a simple oxygen line, positioned just outside his nostrils. This, too, he tried to dislodge, unequivocally communicating his burgeoning independence.
By day four, triumphantly, he was off all breathing assistance. His tiny lungs were functioning perfectly. We were finally in the clear regarding his respiratory challenges.
It was on this day that I could finally hold him properly, without tubes obstructing our connection. The love that surged through me was even more overwhelming than before. I thought I loved him deeply upon birth, but this skin-to-skin embrace was something entirely new. He felt utterly mine; I felt entirely his. We were together again, in the way it was always meant to be. It was pure heaven. Seeing his precious face unencumbered by medical equipment for the first time was an indescribable joy.
Shawn held him for the first time that night after work. Josh gazed intently at Shawn, recognizing his daddy’s voice and presence. It was the longest Josh had been awake since his birth, a truly magical moment for us both. From then on, our primary focus shifted to getting him strong enough to take all his feedings independently. Being so tiny, he lacked the sustained strength to nurse or bottle-feed efficiently; the sucking motion exhausted him too quickly. To ensure he received adequate nutrition, a feeding tube was placed in his nose, delivering milk directly to his tummy. We knew he would get there, gaining the strength he needed.
***
We settled into a new, NICU-centric routine. I barely left his side, venturing away from his isolette only for pumping, eating, sleeping, or a quick trip to the bathroom. I became intimately familiar with an entirely new staff of nurses, gradually transforming into his primary caregiver, learning every nuance of his specialized care.
In the NICU, they practice “cluster care”—the goal being to maximize the baby’s sleep, as sleep directly correlates to growth and strength. Every three hours, we would gently wake Josh to change his diaper, take his temperature, check his vitals, and administer his feeding. I embraced all aspects of his care, changing every diaper, monitoring his temperature, and giving all his feeding tube meals. The nurses often expressed their appreciation when they arrived for their shift, knowing I had already completed most of their tasks for them.
***
Life in the NICU was a paradox: simultaneously the best and the worst, awesome and awful. While he received exceptional care, the very fact that he needed such care was heartbreaking. I understood it was for his optimal health and that he was in the best possible hands, yet my deepest longing was to be home. I was profoundly grateful, filled with happiness that my baby was progressing so wonderfully. Yet, underlying that joy was a persistent disappointment and sadness, a wish that my baby hadn’t needed this challenging start.
The hospital was incredibly accommodating, allowing us to stay until Josh’s discharge. I was resolute: I would not leave the hospital until Josh did. Most days were filled with good news, marking new milestones. No more breathing assistance! No signs of infection! IV removed! Weight gain! More independent feedings! On these “up” days, Shawn and I would feel like our old selves again, talking, flirting, and laughing softly outside his isolette. We would talk to Josh as if we were in our living room; indeed, the NICU had become our living room, our own small, self-contained world. “Everything is fine. We’re doing so great. I can handle this. I’ve never laughed harder or felt happier,” I’d think.
But some days were incredibly difficult, marked by setbacks. He wouldn’t digest enough of his food. He lost weight, down another 10 grams. He developed jaundice and needed phototherapy, meaning no holding him that day. On these “down” days, I would cry, carefully hiding my tears from Josh, often having a complete breakdown in my hospital room. It felt as though my entire world was crumbling. Shawn would have to be strong enough for all three of us, allowing no time for his own emotional breaks. The NICU, on those days, felt like a windowless prison, lit only by harsh fluorescent lights and permeated by recirculated air. “Everything is awful. We’re not doing so great. I can’t handle this. I’ve never cried harder or felt worse,” I’d silently despair.
Life felt like an intense roller coaster of ups and downs. Yet, we consciously chose to focus all our attention on the “ups,” allowing the “downs” to gently recede. We had each other. We had Josh. And we knew, deep down, we would be fine.
***
The path to home was clear: as soon as Josh could consistently take two full days’ worth of feedings independently and demonstrate sustained weight gain, we could be discharged.
When he was five days old, he was strong enough to nurse, even if only for a few minutes before drifting off to sleep—a truly adorable sight. I would then supplement the remaining milk his body needed through his feeding tube.
By day six, he began taking most of his feedings from either nursing or bottles I had pumped. To aid his weight gain, a scoop of formula was added to the breast milk. He had, at one point, dipped to a fragile 4 pounds, 10 ounces.
On day seven, he managed six out of his eight feedings on his own. That night, as I held him, he reached up, his tiny finger deftly wrapping around his feeding tube in his nose, and pulled it. He was a swift little guy, managing to dislodge part of it before I could stop him. I informed the nurse, dreading the thought of her having to reinsert the tube. Instead, she approached, gently pulled the rest of the tube out, and smiled. She said, “He’s just trying to tell us he can do all his feedings on his own now.” And he did. For the next two days, he took every single feeding independently. On day eight, during the doctors’ and nurses’ rounds, the doctor, upon hearing of Josh’s remarkable progress, announced that as long as he maintained it, we could go home the very next day.
Thanksgiving Day.
I broke down crying, overwhelmed by the best news yet. I knew we could do it, and we had.
And so we did. On November 26th, Thanksgiving Day, after 25 days in the hospital, we finally walked out, a family of three.
As we drove home, an overwhelming wave of happiness and gratitude washed over me, a profound appreciation for everything we had overcome and accomplished. In every challenging scenario, the best possible outcome had unfolded. It truly couldn’t have gone better. I hadn’t been outside the hospital walls for almost a month. The world felt different; I felt different. I was a transformed person, a mother. Shawn was a father. We had our boy, our cherished Josh. We were finally going home, a complete family of three, ready to embark on our new life together.
Our journey had forged an unbreakable bond, drawing Shawn and me closer than ever before. We navigated it all together, discovering reserves of strength, positivity, and bravery we never knew we possessed. Our love deepened immeasurably. As challenging as it was, I wouldn’t change a single thing about our miraculous path to parenthood.
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